They say it’s never a good idea to compare your life to someone else. For that matter, it’s never a good idea to compare your list with someone else. And when I say list, I mean “The List”. Like any good Woman of the Now, I felt the need to look at my list and to, well, update it. And I have to say, I was proud of my number. Not too high, not too low, but I would say, very respectful. But then I thought, what’s a good number? And for that matter, what’s a bad number?
I waited very late in life to have sex. A decision, I don’t regret and am happy with. It gave me time to really focus on important things and not have sex be, well, a distraction. However, you can say that I did make up for lost time. Still, the number is one that doesn’t make me blush and one that I would proudly admit. (If you ask me in private, of course) The biggest factor of the Numbers Game, are the years. When you look at your time in the field, how long were you playing the game?
This conversation came up a few weeks ago and it made me realize, that everyone is different. And that’s ok. However it did make me wonder, would a number be more shocking if it were a woman’s or a man’s? To say that it sucks that there is still a double standard, is an understatement. And it sucks even more with this topic. Would a guy look at my number if I were a man and wonder my manliness, or would a woman look at my number and judge me for how many times I was “at bat”?
At the end of the day, you have to own up to your number. For one, you already did it, so you can’t take it back. And sure, you can lie about it, like you lie about your weight, or age, or credit score, but there is no changing it and you will always know the truth. The important thing is, you need to be happy with your number and as a friend of mine pointed out, just be happy that the number increases, it means you’re doing something right. Or, maybe you should find a more constructive hobby.