Lora Dicarlo, drift review

I love nothing more than a bad ass woman on a mission. And bonus if that mission is for the better pleasure of other bad ass women. I know, it sounds like what would be the first lines of my autobiography but it isn’t. And for once, I’m sharing the spotlight to a well deserved, hard working pioneer in the sexual health sector. Lora DiCarlo started her company in 2017 when she saw a need for products made by women, for women. Her first device won great acclaim and even a Robotics Innovation Award from the Consumer Technology Association. An award that they would later take back. (Facepalm)

No bother. Lora continued and worked hard to create a brand that has grown over the years to a multi-million dollar company. And now with Co-Owner and Creative Advisor, Model and Actress Cara Delevingne, she plans to continue educating women and creating state of the art adult products, that fuse technology with human touch and movement.

I got a chance to try one of their most popular products, The Drift.

As a woman with a background in Public Relations and a self professed design nerd, the first thing that got me excited, was the packaging. I know, it sounds cheesy. But it would make sense later on. The packaging was sleek, clean lines, felt amazing, easy to read and just flowed. Again, I know I sound like a nerd. But in a world where many adult toys are made and designed by men, when I can say I am impressed by just the box, you already have me sold.

The Drift is a handheld bullet vibrator with heat feature. Yes. IT HEATS UP! It retails at $95.00, features 3 vibrating patterns, 7 intensity settings and is waterproof. Psssttt, did I mention it heats up? Perfect for solo or couple use, this is device that will quickly become your new best friend.

Now, as I always like to do and as I have always done with this blog, I like to talk about honest, real world experiences. So just go with me on this, ok? THIS THING IS SO FREAKIN AWESOME. Ok, first, super easy to charge (it comes with a USB charger that takes about an hour). It also comes in a lovely discreet storage bag (though if you come over to my place, I’m always the first person to tell you to never look in my nightstand unless you want to be equal parts surprised and impressed). When I say I couldn’t wait to try this, I really couldn’t. My fiance and I both enjoyed it.

It was a great toy during foreplay and the warming sensation, which is just above the normal body temp, felt amazing when used externally. As for during sex, it provided an equal amount of pleasure for both myself and fiance. (I’ll say this, low setting, your mans taint…thank me later). Now I understand that some people may frown at the price and to be honest, I totally get it. You’re talking to a girl who made a yearly purchase of those $30 bullets powered by those tiny watch batteries. But when I say this is an investment, it truly is.

For one, it’s longer lasting, will give you far better experiences, is great for both you AND your partner and the thing heats up for crying out loud! I also got the Foaming Anti Bacterial Cleaner which has a light and refreshing Tea Tree scent. Side Note: always clean your toys! In other words, the Drift is a toy that I am sure will become one of your favorite pleasure products. You can check out the Drift and purchase your own at http://www.loradicarlo.com/drift. And if you try it out, tell me what you think. In the meantime, let’s raise a glass to Lora and Cara, and to all those bad ass women giving us the best sex of our lives!

can you be friends with your ex?

I know! This is a highly loaded question. Mainly because I feel as if people have very strong feelings about the topic. And as well they should. Full disclosure- this is also a hot button topic between my fiancee and I. In truth, there should be no reason to be friends with an ex. For whatever reason, the relationship has failed/ended. So why keep a friendship after dating has ran its course?

So let’s look at this from both sides. I’m the kind of person that when we are done, we are sooooo DONE! I’ve deleted your contact, photos, songs that remind me of you. That’s it. For some people, that is the only way to heal and move on. But there are a few cases where before a relationship developed, there was a friendship. And no, I don’t mean a FWB kind of thing. I mean a “call me when you need a ride home from a creepy date.” or a “my family member died.” kind of friendship. I can think of two such men who fit this description.

Yes, there may have been a romantic past, but it doesn’t change the fact that we have genuinely been there for each other, years after said relationship was over. I mean, if it can happen in TV sitcoms, why can’t it work in real life?

On the flip side, I also understand that things change when sex is involved. And more importantly once you have had an intimate connection what is to say it won’t come back again. My fiance’s argument goes back to the “Can you be friends with the opposite sex?”. Meaning, it is hard for a man to be friends with a woman and not have some desire to be with her. As he put it, if given the opportunity, men would cross the line of friendship to gain something more. I would also like to argue that the same could be done vice versa. I have had male friends that once they became single, I made a move on. But we both wanted to keep the friendship rather than lose it.

So who wins the argument? Can you really be friends with your ex? I say it boils down to a few factors. First, communicating with your partner about the nature of your relationship/friendship. I can’t say in a perfect world that your man and your ex will watch football together, but your man does need to know that the friendship is not a threat.

Next, is time. For me, my two male friends are people I have known for over 20 years and the time we were together was almost 20 years ago. If there is a good amount of time between when you were dating, compared to your current relationship, this may make having the friendship a bit more palatable. And finally, the importance of the friendship vs the relationship. If it is a true friend, he or she may understand that out of respect to your partner, your friendship may need to take a back seat. It may help to avoid temptation, but it may also help in showing your partner your priority.

In the end, having the difficult conversation about your ex’s role in your life, is the best way to start. By all means, don’t bully your partner in seeing your point. But rather with any argument, step back and listen to their concerns. At the end of the day, choose love, over everything else!