Chasing the illusive Silver Fox

I have a sick obsession over Salt and Pepper hair. Bonus if you are wearing glasses. Something about men that can carry it off and carry it off well says…Confident, Mature, Sexy. The Silver Fox. You know who I mean ladies. John Slattery, Anderson Cooper, Richard Gere. For the most part, men of the Silver Fox group are of a certain age. Handsome and over 50.

Ever since I was a little girl, I have always had a sweet spot for men that were older than me. Case in point. I am currently dating a man who is 17 years older than me. Yes, he is 50. When he revealed his age I had a moment of hesitation, but then I asked myself “Why should it be an issue?” He has a great body, good job and doesn’t look his age. The Silver Fox strikes again. But where does the appeal actually come from?



Most psychiatrists would say that the woman would suffer from some old unresolved Daddy Issues. But let’s be honest ladies. In all of the above men mentioned, they share one very distinct trait. Confidence. Think about it. If he can carry off the Silver Fox look, you can bet he’s a pretty strong, confident man. In a society that praises youth, men who walk head first gloriously into their 50’s are a different breed of man than the ones we meet at bars or sporting events.

I dated a guy once who was a fabulous Silver Fox. One day he decided to dye his hair. He was tired of the judgement he got from his peers about looking “too old”. Trust me…he was far from old. He ended up with a horrible dye job that made him look like a bad Superman impersonator. But the biggest thing I gathered from his stint into recapturing his youth, he didn’t have the confidence to embrace what he had. He felt the need to change based on other people. The end result? He had to endure a bad job dye for weeks and the chuckles from his co-workers.

So ladies, the next time you are out and you see a handsome gent with a bit of gray, sitting alone drinking a fine Scotch, don’t roll your eyes and pass him by. He’s not your dad, but I am sure he’d be happy to teach you a thing or two.

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