Table for One: The Break Up

I guess when it comes to dating, you have to look at what happens when it all goes south. I mean, we really do want to believe that you meet “The One”, you move into the perfect house and live happily ever after.  But let’s be real, fairly tales as history will tell you, usually come from a tragic beginning. So with that thought, sometimes, the end is the best way to start the beginning.

The fact that I can even say these words in the part of my life as today, is nothing short of a miracle. But it comes from one simple truth, and that is quite simply, we all deserve happiness. We all deserve a love that can make time stand still. Now that might be a bit romantic, but what we all deserve is to feel love. You should never feel or live in a state of compromise, of settling, or just getting by. The Break Up is the first step to getting to what is the best thing for both parties.

You have to look at it this way, you can sit and whine and cry and bitch and moan. But what does that get you? Do you think the other person is doing the same ? Should you even care? Does it change the end result? No. So what can you do? You can take a day, one day, to look at every side, cry, eat, drink, have random sex, then the next day, you move the fuck on. Ok. So this may be a bit harsh and slightly unrealistic. But here is the truth, the break up is not the end. It may be the end of this love, but there is another love to come.

I use to think at one point after a break up, I will never find a guy better than the last. The funny thing was, after every break up, the next guy was always better than the last. I learned not to make the same mistakes, and I found myself close and closer to being really happy. So if you failed or if he failed, just imagine how great the next guy will be? The Break Up is not a death sentence, it is just the end of one phase of your relationship life. It hurts like hell and time is the only healer, but with that time comes strength, wisdom and insight.

So enjoy being at that table of one. Drink the largest drink, eat the richest food, enjoy the greatest silence and clear your mind, your head and your heart. Then, start again and this time, you will be ready for your party of two.

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