Sorry ladies, this is not a post about my love for the Jon Cusack movie. Or a story about a guy I dated who did something as romantic as standing out my window with a boom box playing Peter Gabriel. Sadly, this is a post about a sad, but interesting dating truth.
When I was young, my mother was very open with me when it came to sex and dating. Most might think that’s odd, but it was a great tactic. For her, she wanted me to know that if I ever had a question about sex and relationships, I should be honest and talk to her, no matter how silly or embarassing it might seem. And guess what, it worked. Of course years later, she would come to me with questions and there is nothing more bizarre than having to clarify to your mother what “tea bagging” means.
One of the many lessons my mother taught me was the “Say Anything” theory. One summer we sat and talked about relationships and the difference between having sex and making love. Note: There is a very clear difference between the two, and if you don’t believe it now, you soon will. My mother then told me of this theory. When it comes to sex, a man will say anything to get you in bed. They will promise you the moon and the stars, build an imaginary future, quote poems or a Dave Matthews song. In short there is nothing a man WON’T say to get the panties to drop. I have to admit, it’s pretty genius. It’s like the ultimate car salesman tactic. The scary thing is, we fall for it each time.
There is actually a part of each woman that knows this theory to be true. Yet we fall for it each time. And why do we fall for it? Because there is a little girl inside of us that is screaming “But he is different! He means it! He must REALLY REALLY like me” Oh no boo boo. He must really like and want the cookie. And he does. But here is the problem with this theory on the male point, why use the line? Why go through all that effort? Why jeopardize your conscience and soul just to sleep with us? Can you think of a better approach? That’s right…you can’t. Because each one of us ladies have had the direct approach. The guy who flirts with you, chemistry goes off and at the end of the date he gives you the coded “Your place or mine?” line.
And what do we do? We run for this hills, warn all of our girl friends, and laugh in your face. So at the end of the day, the men have no choice but to do the “Say Anything” line(s). But ladies, must we fall for it? No. We can simply recognize it for what it is, an invitation to get us in bed, and leave it at that. Then again, we ladies can say anything to get you to believe that it was worth it. But we would never fake something like that….would we?